Mom dating, have you found her yet?

Remember the days when you would cruise through the park, scan out other moms and hit them with the best line about a baby gadget they happen to own?  Being a mom is lonely at times.  We are constantly in search of validation for our guilt, joy, stresses and successes of motherhood.

Today, even though I have tremendously fabulous friends!  Finding moms like me with the same parenting style and similar view of the world continues to remain an unsolved mystery.  If there’s a mom connector out there, would you use it?  Would you want to find other moms like you? How would you utilize it?

I personally would like to explore that opportunity. Although I feel like perhaps we’d all say no initially, however, it’s nice to have similar goals and values in great friendship.  What are your thoughts?

 

 

Redefining the Modern Mom. What does it mean to you?

In the 50’s, mothers stayed at home to serve their husband and children.  Between the 60s and the 90s, women fought hard to define femininity in the workplace, culture and home.

Today, 72% of moms are in the workforce with kids under the age of 18. Modern moms now want to be great mothers, however, while still pursuing and an identity outside of motherhood.  One of the biggest issues that moms face is the backlash of fragmented families and the fight to hold on to traditional values.  Moms are finding themselves having to work for financial needs but in reality 53% of them would actually prefer to be stay-at-home moms!

Is that possible for a working mom can put 150% in during work hours and can come home and hold on to traditional values?  Why is it that moms feel like they have to aspire to be a stay at home mom in order to achieve that?  Try Googling with the keyword “mom guilt”, and you’ll find over 20 pages of content just about moms and their guilt of self-care and work.  Each day, more than 25 millions mothers work, in addition to performing their duties as a mother, wife or homemaker.  Where is the Momevolution moving toward?  Are we going backwards?

With the rise of Gen Y moms (ages 20-35), a shift in thinking will be needed to close in this gap of 53% of working moms aspiring to be stay at home moms.  The modern mom will enlist help from friends and families to keep focus on their children’s development while feeling fantastic about the work they’re doing outside of their home.

Kick in those traditional values like “it takes a village” to raise a child and believe in the power of community.  Use technology to make your lives easier while staying connected with people you trust.  Don’t feel guilty for your happiness because the media portrays what their definition of a mom is supposed to be.  Because only 12% of moms feel that the media actually portrays them correctly.

The modern mom is NOT about going back to being a mom of the 50’s.  It’s about being smarter while combining the old with the new.

What are your thoughts?

 

 

*Sources: Searcher Moms: A Search Behavior and User Study, DoubleClick, 2007, U.S. Department of Labor, Trillion Dollar Moms by Maria T. Bailey & Bonnie Worthy Ulman and the Current Population Survey, Bureau of Census for the Bureau of Labor Statistics

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Working Moms, Stay at Home Moms… What’s with the judgement?

The working mom wishes she had more free time to be available to her child, and   the nonworking woman would maybe like to have something that’s a reflection of her as an individual — a label that says she’s a capable, creative person who knows about more than just baby formula or after-school programs.

At the end of the day, we are the same…  MOMS!  We all have guilt, sadness, hopes and wishes.  This month, let’s try to help each other and put aside your judgement.  As moms, we are all individuals who wishes to create a better life for ourselves, kids and family.

Imagine a day when nonworking moms can get advice from working moms when they wish to start their own business or go back in the workplace.  Or working moms with advice on where to take their kids for the most popular local activities when they are on break? Just a couple of random examples…

Whether a mom works or not, most of us act by placing our children in priority.  So when you get an opportunity, instead of judging, try asking how you can help.

What’s your opinion?  Leave a comment and let me know how you feel!

 

I’ve got it all wrong. Achieve for your daughters, not for you.

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I often get asked why I’m a founder of a startup.  I get warned that the road is rough ahead and success rates are really low.  My selfish answer is that I want to achieve something within my lifetime.  Recently, I have set out on a journey to tell moms to hold on to their goals and dreams, take care of themselves and continue to achieve for a happier balanced life.  But I’ve got it all wrong.

As I was watching a video from Sheryl Sandberg today, there is a bigger purpose for my journey.  Here she is, speaking to college grads telling them to not quit before they quit. Often times girls are choosing professions that will give them a flexibility to have a family schedule later in life.  However, when they make that decision, they are cutting themselves short of their maximum potential.  What really needs to happen is that moms of my generation needs to raise their children to not to quit before they quit by being role models themselves.  Show your children that anything is possible, show them that even as a mom, you CAN achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself.  This is beyond selfish achievements, this is about demonstrating to your daughters that accomplishments are made by not giving up.

So forget about setting goals for yourself for a minute, set your goals for your children to see how you accomplish them.  Do and then you will teach.

Please take the time out to watch Sheryl Sandburg’s Video…  She truly is an inspiration.

 

 

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Time to Rekindle your Dreams. Need support?

As moms, we all have different challenges when it comes time to achieving our own dreams and goals. Where would we find the time between the laundry, cooking meals, rushing from place to place and helping our kids with their homework! It’s so easy to lose ourselves in the shuffle of motherhood. But it’s important for us to remember that we also have desires to accomplish things in our own lives! Whether it’s getting back into a hobby or starting a business, those deep seeded aspirations are constantly screaming out your name. Don’t ignore your talents and gifts as individuals, start with small goals and eventually, you’ll find your way back to you.

The best support givers are moms. Turn to each other for help! We are a  strong community that understands the daily pressures of being a super mom and an individual.

Anything’s possible when moms accomplish their aspirations!  Let’s dream, aspire and strive together!

Are you with me?

 

 

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Letter from me

To my supporters,
Without you, I wouldn’t be where I am today.
You tell me not to quit when things are challenging.
Instead of saying “good luck”, you ask me how you can help
I feel like an Olympian with a team of supporters that backs and believes in me so much where they will catapult me to my ultimate success.
There is nothing like the feeling of having an army behind you when you are trying to achieve and accomplish.
I wish for the day where moms around the world can be free of their guilt to pursue their dreams and goals with an army of supporters by their side. Moms collaborating with other moms (whether if they work or stay at home) to make each other’s dreams and goals come true!  Imagine that!
So today, I thank you to those who has catapulted me to where I am.  Not to sound cheesy, you are the wind beneath my wings.
Sincerely,
Melinda
Founder of TrustVillage