Ordinary Moms Doing Extraordinary Things are BACK! Jessica Heilman is a mother of 6, seller on Etsy, aspiring author and DIY remodeling pro. Jessica talks about how and why she’s doing it all.
Hey hey hey! I’m going to the PlayBoy Mansion for the Pre-ESPY Party!!! Once in a lifetime event and I’m getting ready from Drab to Fab! Thanks Heather Amin for the awesome transformation!
Marie Riddle Walker, Founder of Livin Lime and Melinda Kim, Founder of Aspirely talk about the future and importance of video and women. Marie is involved in multiple and highly influential communities online such as Friends of Ricki and Social Media Girlfriends. She is sharing her insights with us after attending the Women in Video conference at the Mom2Summit last month!
Hi! This is Melinda Kim and these are my confessions and opinions!
Hey everyone, it’s Melinda Kim and this is my first mini-van confession! I can‘t stand people who think they are victims. I had the exact same conversation with my daughter today because she claims that she had bad behavior because so and so made me her this way, so and so made her this mad and so and so….
But the point is, nobody is in charge of your actions but yourself! I think we all know this, even as an adult, there’s always so much blame and so much resentment towards others. I just really want to get the message across that you in the end are the one who are really in charge of your own actions.
Think about what story you’re telling yourself, are you an overcomer or are you a victim? I sure hope you’re not a victim because if you tell yourself you are, you’re going to be.
But if you tell yourself that you’re an overcomer, you’re going to be looking at all that you have overcame. Then whatever you’re going through, it’s something that you can handle and get through. You are not a victim and you can choose a better path. So that’s my confession today, I don’t deal well with people who think they’re victims.
This is Melinda Kim, Founder of Aspirely. Today, I am squashing excuses show you how you can invest in yourself.
Investing in yourself is so important because you will feel that a sense of purpose and fulfillment that is for YOU and not your family. We tend to give every moment of every day to other people, whether it’s our family, business or work. Because at the end of the day, if we don’t feel like we’re growing and progressing as an individual, we can’t fully give ourselves to our family and friends.
I hear a lot of reasons why investing in yourself is hard… things like I don’t have time for that right now, I don’t have the money or I’m not sure what I want to do.
So I’m going to address all that right now… Let’s face it, we all have time and a matter of putting yourself in priority and make the time. Think of creative ways like making a commitment for ½ an hour a day, pop in a video and work out from your home. Or go take a community course that you’ve always wanted to take while the kids are at school. The trick is to schedule it. We all know if something’s not written, it’s not going happen.
Next, let’s talk about the money thing! There are so many resources online between blogs and Youtube that you can pretty much learn about anything you want. So get Googling and I’m sure you’ll find a great cooking class or workout regime that you can simply follow.
And the third one is not being sure of what you want to do. This is actually very common. But if you listen to you own voice, you really know what your interests are. Don’t be afraid to start! If it’s dancing and you haven’t danced in a while, go take a dance class at your local gym that you may belong to already. Or simply try some arts and crafts you see on Pinterest.
The point is, just start taking time out and investing back in yourself. If you’re happy, you’ll find yourself giving more back to your family.
After the initial interview, Becky and I talk about Instagram, Marketing Strategies and more advice from her to new photographers!
Becky Lew is a busy mom of 2 and a successful photographer with photos I believe should be featured with Anthropology! Just throwing it out there…
She is a beautiful person inside and out and even though I haven’t seen her in years, her warmth and smile made me feel so comfortable like I’m seeing an old friend. Perhaps that’s her gift as a photographer, she has the ability to bring families, couples and kids to trust her so they reveal their deepest emotions which is brought forward by her photos.
I’m really lucky to get a chance to sit and chat with her yesterday about photography, life and motherhood.
Melinda: When did you start taking interest in photography?
Becky: It’s so funny because when you don’t have the right equipment, you just will not be satisfied with what your work. When I took pictures of my kids or other people’s weddings, I realized the photographs never came out the way I had envisioned it. I got a really good camera from a friend, it took a really nice picture and I fell in love to it. So when the pictures came out and I saw what I wanted to see, that was how it first started for me. And ever since then, I haven’t been able to put my camera down.
Melinda: Have you always taken interest in the beauty of things or places? Was the camera just a tool for you to let your vision out? Have you always had those visions?
Becky: I’m one of those people who treasure moments. Like “ohh I love this coffee and I’m treasuring it”. I’ve always wanted to capture a moment. For example, moments like your kid’s first step or when you’re going on a date or when you have yummy food. I just want to capture those moments. I always remembered my parents taking pictures all the time and the pictures don’t reflect necessarily what was going on. It doesn’t bring me back to that feeling. I’ve also wanted to capture a moment with the emotions behind it.
Melinda: So at what point did you decide to take the risk and start Becky Lew photography? Since this was a passion, it could have easily stayed as a hobby.
Becky: So, the funny thing is that I’ve never visualized myself to be a photographer. Literally for the first year, I was charging people for my photography but I still couldn’t tell people that I was a photographer. I cringed because I would go into sessions and have no idea what I was doing. I was nervous, scared, didn’t know if I could do it. How do I interact with these clients? Am I worthy? Are these pictures going turn out the way I want them to? And it’s really something that I journeyed through that year discovering if it was something I could do. So, after a year, with a lot of cheerleaders and good friends, I finally decided that this is exactly what I’m supposed to be doing. So it was definitely a journey. I didn’t just wake up one day and decided I was going to do Becky Lew photography. That wasn’t my goal, it was something I hoped for and just to have the confidence to call myself a photographer.
Something else that I also learned is that you really have to know your equipment. You have to be connected with your purpose and style.
Melinda: A lot of moms too have to go through that journey to get rid of self doubt and naysayers in order to decide that this is what they want to do.
So, here’s some advice I would give moms who’s trying to also be a photographer:
- Learn the equipment
- What inspires you? Babies, people? For me, I am in love with people and telling their stories. That’s what inspires me!
- Just keep doing it and don’t quit.
Melinda: What challenges have you faced?
Becky: I would be up until 2 in the morning learning Photoshop. I would be pouring over images after images. I would compare myself to others. One of the best advice I have is to stop comparing yourself. I know it’s hard because I still do it myself. You are comparing yourself with other’s perfect pictures and it just squashes with your creativity. Believe in who you are and what you’re called to do.
It’s not about how many people’s following you on Social Media. It’s about your journey and discovering what you are supposed to do. We are so concerned with what others are doing that we aren’t focusing on what we’re called to do.
Melinda: What has been the most rewarding thing for you?
Becky: One of the most rewarding things is to be able to connect with people and hear their stories. I love it when a couple comes to me and I hear their story and how they fell in love and being able to capture that on their special day. Creating something that they can look at when they are fighting or when they’re old. It’s one of the greatest gift is to capture those moments they can’t get back. Being able to savor the moments when they are vulnerable with me laughing and crying. They open themselves up to let me capture who they really are. I want to be able to share with them of what beauty I see within them.
Melinda: So what does your kids think about you and your work?
Becky: When I first started, they were really excited that I have a website! They are so proud of me for being able to take their photos and they really like it. They saw it unfold since it wasn’t like I’ve always wanted to be a photographer. So they see that mommy loves to do something and then now I’m doing it. And now that they see that their dreams are possible and that they can do it too!
I have amazing friends who walked through the journey with me when I cried and doubted my photos and when I thought there was no way I could do this. I think the biggest thing is my family, the sacrifices my husband has had to make. He’s been my rock, he stayed up with me until 2 or 3 in the morning while I was trying to figure things out. He was sitting next to me but it just takes that person to sit next to you supporting you.
Melinda: So inspired! And I hope everyone else is too! Don’t try to do this by yourself!
Becky: And there’s going to be naysayers, you’re going to have people who will question and make comments about what you’re trying to do. If you are called to do something, just do it. Do it with everything you have, pour everything into it. Just do it.
Melinda: I have posted some of your photos on fb.com/aspirely. You have to check out her photos because your photos should be on anthropology
Becky: There’s beauty in everyday. You wake up and you think what is today going to bring. You need to go out and find the beauty. Be able to capture something that someone may not see about themselves.
Melinda: Thank you so much for being here. She doesn’t do much video so this is definitely a treat!
Lucie’s List just reached over 28,000 Subscribers! Lucie’s List is a survival guide to new moms. This is an exclusive interview with Meg Collins, Founder of Lucie’s List. Learn how she did it and get her advice on what you MUST do in order to succeed in the the world of mommy blogging.
Melinda: Do you need to be a writer before starting a blog? Please tell us a bit about your background and Lucie’s List.
Meg: Absolutely not, I’m an industrial engineer and then I got my MBA. I’ve had many different lives! I went to Georgia Tech where you don’t really take many writing classes. It helps to be able to put sentences together and to tell a good story. I’m a terrible writer, I just write in a very informal tone. I think that if you can relate to people, you can make it informal. You’re not writing a thesis. Good editing is the key.
I started doing Lucie’s List for fun! Back then, I was broke and gearing for my first baby, I did everything badly! I formed a mommy group, I copied down all the best practices and started writing about it. Anyone can do it. Even engineers!
Melinda: What is your long term vision?
Meg: Lucie’s List is bigger than I could have ever hopped for. We have built such a great community for women. I want Lucie’s List to be a resource for new moms who have no idea what they’re doing. Moms have a great sense of humor and want to get the low down on information. I talk a lot about maternal health, taking care of yourself emotionally and physically. Being able to hold someone’s hand through that difficult period is really important. A lot of us don’t live near our family or friends, so to be able to provide comfort and confidence to new moms, it’s a really great gift. Secondly, I’m really getting into publishing! I published a non-fiction book recently. I learned a lot and would like to enable others to publish as well. I think everybody has a story to tell and everybody is relevant and resourceful through their own experience.
Melinda: What’s your advice for moms who want to start blogging?
Meg: Know what your goal is for the blog. What are you trying to accomplish? Some people like to blog just to share as a memoir. If that’s your purpose, then you can do that tomorrow and sign up for WordPress. But if you want to syndicate, you really have to look inside yourself and decide what you have to offer. It’s actually very difficult to make money as a blogger. You have to figure out your goal and your runway. If you’re not making money, a lot of people quit. It’s tough, not easy at all. In fact, you loose money!
Melinda: What are the 3 MUST DO’s to succeed:
1. Figure out your goal
2. Define the audience you’re trying to reach. There are all kinds of forums and websites where you can find your audience. If you don’t know, it’s an uphill battle. You need to define the people you’re trying to reach in order to speak to them directly.
3. Be patient, it really takes a long time to see any results. This guy Bill Belew was showing graphs at the last blog conference and demonstrated that it actually takes 8-9 months to show traction. So if you have stopped at month 7, you never would have known what could have happened.
*For bloggers, you have to blog consistently (or you’ll never see that vertical of traction), frequently and be persistent. Don’t give up or you’ll never see the vertical piece of the curve
Melinda: I see bloggers who blog about minutiae… yet they are so popular. Why is that?
Meg: That doesn’t happen very often, you have to be very funny like the Bloggess. Or have a brand behind you and have followers already. You have to make sure people care about what you have to say.
Me: Thank you Meg for your honesty! Again, we are so proud of you! If you’d like to connect with her, feel free to place a comment or question below!
Meg: Can I add something?
Everybody has a story to tell. If it’s writing a book, I think the market is wide open using the tools that are available right now. If women want to make income, they can become an expert and talk about it. It’s an open field right now!
Do you want to start you 2013 eating and living healthier? Andrea from IGIG Wellness can help you! She has made incredible transformations herself and is now helping many others to do the same. Every Tuesday, she’s been sharing with us her strategy into living and eating healthier.
If you didn’t catch her last Tuesday, click HERE to go to the fitness category in the blog to watch her episode last week!
Here is a bonus to Andrea’s Stop Eating Crap video. Learn to to make sure you are eating the right portions and where to buy good inexpensive food. Everyone can find a way to eat healthy food that fits in their budget!
Thanks again Andrea for you awesome tips!!! You can connect with Andrea at fb.com/andrea.igigwellness.